Sunday, July 10, 2011
PLEASE HELP ME THIS IS SUPER IMPORTANT?
Long ago when we were first dating, my husband got 2 felony DUIs in a month (hadn't even been sentenced for the first when he got the second). I too wrote a letter, very similar to yours, to the judge. Keep in mind, I loved, and still love my husband more than any other person in this world, but, I felt he had made 2 terrible decisions, and even though I loved him, he made his bed and now he had to lay in it. When I reffered to his character, I said he was loving, generous, kind to everyone ect... but I didn't include him being of the upmost character, because he was wearing county jail orange, and going to prison, letter or not. Do not lie to the judge, he/she will see through the BS, and the rest of your letter will be discredited. Second, do not talk about how you will drive him around. Judges are used to working with some of the worst people in society, especially if he's being tried in the superior court. They have 0 faith in humanity, and probably figure you, like 99% of other women with a boyfriend going to jail, will eventually break it off with him, and then how will he get a ride? They won't be convinced on that standpoint. Perhaps instead of throwing a astronomical number of job applications out there, be more reasonable and say "I have been trying to be as helpful as possible through this process, and let him know of 3 jobs at xyz businesses, within walking distance/can take the bus/subway to (any means of transportation besides your promise to drive him), all of which he has filled out and checked back on. He has also been to xyz employment agency and has a resume on file (yes he will need to go to xyz employment agency and fill out said job applications if you say this). The part about school is fine, although I might want to throw in what he plans to get as a degree "he is planning on studying xyz field, and him going to prison will seriously hinder his ability to reach this goal". Leave off the last 2 sentences. No offense, but the rest of your letter, save a few minor things, flows nicely and in a mature tone. Then you throw in, your closing statement something about "him being the one"? That decimates all credibility, and makes you sound very immature. The judge will not be taking something that seems like it was written by a 13 year old on her first crush. It will be a fine closing just to have "I can only foresee a group of positive people that will be around Gregory".
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